To start, answer this simple question. If your parents were ordinary people, not members of a family, for example, a work colleague, or neighbor in the apartment, we would support you with them a friendly, warm relationship? If YES, then quit, because this article is not for you. If not, and back to ask me: – if you can’t love your parents, whether you WANT them to love? If you want to love, but can’t, then I ask you – why do you need to love them? Yes, for what?
Maybe for what you NEED them to love? But if so, who needs? If you are, then WHY NEED to love someone? Maybe because it made? But by WHOM TAKEN? WHO IS THIS “SOMEONE”? Can a society? If so, remember at least five people approving it. Personally I can’t think of one person. If you still find five people, it is definitely not the company, for a total of five people.
The fifth commandment of Moses: “Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee”, says it is about the respect for parents that can be regarded by people as, “love your parents”, and to form public opinion. If so, then love and respect, not quite the same concept. For example, I can respect, but not love. But, if I love, and respect at the same time.
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Often watching as a child addicted to a computer game, parents are sounding the alarm and wonder, will affect whether computer games negatively on the psyche of a teenager? Are they able to cause computer addiction? Whether it is necessary to forbid the child to play? The situation clarifies psychologist Julia Donets.
– Julia, you have about 7 years in private practice. How often do you turn to parents with the problem of computer addiction in the child?
– Any addiction – it is the escape of a person from solutions to life’s challenges that he faced. Actually appeals to psychotherapists with symptoms of computer addiction can be counted on the fingers. According to statistics, in the face of serious difficulties, children and adolescents are more likely to resort to alcohol and drugs, and not the computer.
– Why alcohol and drugs remain in first place in solving teenage problems?
The alcohol helps the teenager to return to an earlier stage of development in which he couldn’t care less about me, and he has a right not to be responsible for anything in his life, shifting responsibility to others. The computer gives the same level of regression, which is called alcohol and drugs.
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Child stealing is a quite common problem, frightening for any parent who is faced with it. Although almost any child, including their own parents in childhood, at least once took someone else’s, adults usually tend to panic if it happens to their child.
There are several reasons why children steal:
If it’s a small child, 3-4 years, usually he doesn’t understand boundaries, where my, where someone else. In this age of child stealing cannot even be called such a term, because the child is not aware of property boundaries.
Not high enough self-esteem of the child. This child thinks that the other is always better.
The motivation is to attract the attention of peers: the child has no relations with peers in kindergarten, at school, in the yard, and the child, finding no other solution, you may take the money and buy a variety of sweets, treat all these friends, getting the attention and recognition he so wanted and waited. Typically, these thefts tend to make children 6-8 years of age and adolescents.
Theft may be a way of self-affirmation of the child, and this is also a signal of distress, when the child does not feel enough love of parents towards him or even each other.
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