The girl should be quiet, economical and accurate, its merits – a docile and gentle nature, and the main objective – to marry well, become a model housewife and have children. And this is not a description of the methods of education of the Middle ages – this Patriarchal realities of modern Ukraine, where the girls forget to tell that they’re individuals and can build your life, career and family, not being dependent on men. Therapist of Leonid Semakov believes that in this way one of the girls raise free staff.
The middle ages in 2012
When I was preparing for an interview on this topic, to be honest, I doubt that the problem of educating girls in a Patriarchal style now just as relevant as, for example, 30 years ago. But was unpleasantly surprised to find many tips for raising girls frankly humiliating display. For example, how about this: “Educating a girl can do without such approvals as “good”, “well done”, “clever”. Such words of encouragement of a girl forced to be like the boy and strive to achieve success, to obtain the approval. But this will not make her happy. Many women incorrectly educated, strive for achievement, a career, a great income, but feel even more marginalized and deprived of love”? The mind boggles that the desire for achievement is considered to be improper upbringing in 2012!
One of the girls Continue reading
Educate a girl in something easier than a boy, but something more complicated. And if earlier it was clear that we need to raise a girl as a future wife, mother and housewife, the current realities require a woman to stand on their own feet. At that Orient girl: a family or a career? What to prepare: to be sensitive flower or impenetrable wall? In either case, she needs to educate femininity.
Recently at work I heard from one young mom the following: “I did not want to raise a daughter feminine – so much suffering and heavy then she will! I know I did. “Amazing? Yes, initially I thought so. But I’m not rushed into an argument with his friend, who began to argue that it is not properly raised, and began to think calmly. Why did she do that? After all, femininity is the main female quality and it is always appreciated, especially among the representatives of the stronger sex. But. in today’s world a woman should be strong and independent and increasingly girls are brought up in the spirit of feminism and independence, trying to target baby for career growth and leadership.
Of course, by the nature of his daughter’s qualities such as tenderness and femininity, you won’t necessarily make her weak-willed homebody, all catering to her husband. Developing my baby feminine qualities, you will be able to get a good housewife, loving mother, gentle and loving Continue reading
You took the first step in the approximation to the semantic concept of “seven I”.
But just at this moment the family and can start to crumble, because the birth of a child is not only joy, but also great stress.
Quiet good life of the spouses becomes a small nightmare of sleepless nights, worries about the baby, Laundry, cooking. With bruises under my eyes from chronic sleep deprivation and chronic fatigue has been rolled up mother impatiently met returning to work the same, tired and apprehensive to approach her own child dad. Familiar picture?
Further more, the mother tries to go to work or becoming a freelancer, trying to make something at home, the child, of course, requires attention, and my dad watches TV and requires to reason with the child. On the horizon begins to ignite the flames of the coming scandal, if not divorce. Why is it so? How to get through this period and keep the family together?
It turns out because rarely what the family is ready for such a serious restructuring of family life which requires the appearance of the child. After all, even on the background of some General obligations (family, cooking, Laundry, shopping), each spouse could carry out their plans and easy to manage my time. With the new baby, time to myself is desperately Continue reading