To start, answer this simple question. If your parents were ordinary people, not members of a family, for example, a work colleague, or neighbor in the apartment, we would support you with them a friendly, warm relationship? If YES, then quit, because this article is not for you. If not, and back to ask me: – if you can’t love your parents, whether you WANT them to love? If you want to love, but can’t, then I ask you – why do you need to love them? Yes, for what?
Maybe for what you NEED them to love? But if so, who needs? If you are, then WHY NEED to love someone? Maybe because it made? But by WHOM TAKEN? WHO IS THIS “SOMEONE”? Can a society? If so, remember at least five people approving it. Personally I can’t think of one person. If you still find five people, it is definitely not the company, for a total of five people.
The fifth commandment of Moses: “Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee”, says it is about the respect for parents that can be regarded by people as, “love your parents”, and to form public opinion. If so, then love and respect, not quite the same concept. For example, I can respect, but not love. But, if I love, and respect at the same time.
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Child stealing is a quite common problem, frightening for any parent who is faced with it. Although almost any child, including their own parents in childhood, at least once took someone else’s, adults usually tend to panic if it happens to their child.
There are several reasons why children steal:
If it’s a small child, 3-4 years, usually he doesn’t understand boundaries, where my, where someone else. In this age of child stealing cannot even be called such a term, because the child is not aware of property boundaries.
Not high enough self-esteem of the child. This child thinks that the other is always better.
The motivation is to attract the attention of peers: the child has no relations with peers in kindergarten, at school, in the yard, and the child, finding no other solution, you may take the money and buy a variety of sweets, treat all these friends, getting the attention and recognition he so wanted and waited. Typically, these thefts tend to make children 6-8 years of age and adolescents.
Theft may be a way of self-affirmation of the child, and this is also a signal of distress, when the child does not feel enough love of parents towards him or even each other.
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Raising children can be different, because there are so many different styles of parenting recognized and not quite. Most often we bring up our children in the same spirit in which we were educated in the family parents. When they become parents themselves, and knowing about all the shortcomings in their education, we are like puppets, we repeat the same mistakes on their own children. Look at these most common styles of parenting, you may recognize in this list your family archetype.
You’d think people who were brought up by liberal parents, absolutely happy. Who wouldn’t want to have parents who can’t sleep tonight as long as you wish, and in the morning, on the contrary, to sleep it off before dinner; go to any parties and events without even asking when the baby will come back; they don’t even mind guys stay in your room and never come to your office without knocking. Alas, people who grew up in such families the lucky ones yourself do not. The problem is that children need boundaries, if not to give them guidelines of what is permitted and not permitted, they become overly spoiled and often don’t know at what point should stop. Talking with a friend who grew Continue reading