Children’s Masturbation: norm or pathology?
You caught your child playing with genitals? You were so shocked and appalled that he did not know how to respond? What it is: a fun, promiscuity or illness?
About the dangers of children’s onanism (Masturbation) lots of talk, mostly unfounded.
Before, the baby begins to explore all parts of his body. He does not understand that the body has “forbidden” places. If we remind him about it, his curiosity increases, and can turn into a pathological habit.
Often Masturbation is characteristic of active children, “slowpokes” just suck your thumb or the edge of the blanket.
Usually parents are too embarrassed to seek advice from professionals. While Your wrong reaction can harm, maim the child’s life.
How to respond to children’s Masturbation?
First of all, if You ever caught your child for a lesson in Masturbation, no need to faint or scream, stomp their feet.
Requires endurance and tact. If it’s a small child, try calmly, without emotion to shift his attention to something else.
With school-age children also need to be calm, to talk about it when he’ll be able to listen to You. But in any case, do not scold the child, and do not be intimidated!
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Child stealing is a quite common problem, frightening for any parent who is faced with it. Although almost any child, including their own parents in childhood, at least once took someone else’s, adults usually tend to panic if it happens to their child.
There are several reasons why children steal:
If it’s a small child, 3-4 years, usually he doesn’t understand boundaries, where my, where someone else. In this age of child stealing cannot even be called such a term, because the child is not aware of property boundaries.
Not high enough self-esteem of the child. This child thinks that the other is always better.
The motivation is to attract the attention of peers: the child has no relations with peers in kindergarten, at school, in the yard, and the child, finding no other solution, you may take the money and buy a variety of sweets, treat all these friends, getting the attention and recognition he so wanted and waited. Typically, these thefts tend to make children 6-8 years of age and adolescents.
Theft may be a way of self-affirmation of the child, and this is also a signal of distress, when the child does not feel enough love of parents towards him or even each other.
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The girl should be quiet, economical and accurate, its merits – a docile and gentle nature, and the main objective – to marry well, become a model housewife and have children. And this is not a description of the methods of education of the Middle ages – this Patriarchal realities of modern Ukraine, where the girls forget to tell that they’re individuals and can build your life, career and family, not being dependent on men. Therapist of Leonid Semakov believes that in this way one of the girls raise free staff.
The middle ages in 2012
When I was preparing for an interview on this topic, to be honest, I doubt that the problem of educating girls in a Patriarchal style now just as relevant as, for example, 30 years ago. But was unpleasantly surprised to find many tips for raising girls frankly humiliating display. For example, how about this: “Educating a girl can do without such approvals as “good”, “well done”, “clever”. Such words of encouragement of a girl forced to be like the boy and strive to achieve success, to obtain the approval. But this will not make her happy. Many women incorrectly educated, strive for achievement, a career, a great income, but feel even more marginalized and deprived of love”? The mind boggles that the desire for achievement is considered to be improper upbringing in 2012!
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