The girl should be quiet, economical and accurate, its merits – a docile and gentle nature, and the main objective – to marry well, become a model housewife and have children. And this is not a description of the methods of education of the Middle ages – this Patriarchal realities of modern Ukraine, where the girls forget to tell that they’re individuals and can build your life, career and family, not being dependent on men. Therapist of Leonid Semakov believes that in this way one of the girls raise free staff.
The middle ages in 2012
When I was preparing for an interview on this topic, to be honest, I doubt that the problem of educating girls in a Patriarchal style now just as relevant as, for example, 30 years ago. But was unpleasantly surprised to find many tips for raising girls frankly humiliating display. For example, how about this: “Educating a girl can do without such approvals as “good”, “well done”, “clever”. Such words of encouragement of a girl forced to be like the boy and strive to achieve success, to obtain the approval. But this will not make her happy. Many women incorrectly educated, strive for achievement, a career, a great income, but feel even more marginalized and deprived of love”? The mind boggles that the desire for achievement is considered to be improper upbringing in 2012!
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Raising children can be different, because there are so many different styles of parenting recognized and not quite. Most often we bring up our children in the same spirit in which we were educated in the family parents. When they become parents themselves, and knowing about all the shortcomings in their education, we are like puppets, we repeat the same mistakes on their own children. Look at these most common styles of parenting, you may recognize in this list your family archetype.
You’d think people who were brought up by liberal parents, absolutely happy. Who wouldn’t want to have parents who can’t sleep tonight as long as you wish, and in the morning, on the contrary, to sleep it off before dinner; go to any parties and events without even asking when the baby will come back; they don’t even mind guys stay in your room and never come to your office without knocking. Alas, people who grew up in such families the lucky ones yourself do not. The problem is that children need boundaries, if not to give them guidelines of what is permitted and not permitted, they become overly spoiled and often don’t know at what point should stop. Talking with a friend who grew Continue reading
Educate a girl in something easier than a boy, but something more complicated. And if earlier it was clear that we need to raise a girl as a future wife, mother and housewife, the current realities require a woman to stand on their own feet. At that Orient girl: a family or a career? What to prepare: to be sensitive flower or impenetrable wall? In either case, she needs to educate femininity.
Recently at work I heard from one young mom the following: “I did not want to raise a daughter feminine – so much suffering and heavy then she will! I know I did. “Amazing? Yes, initially I thought so. But I’m not rushed into an argument with his friend, who began to argue that it is not properly raised, and began to think calmly. Why did she do that? After all, femininity is the main female quality and it is always appreciated, especially among the representatives of the stronger sex. But. in today’s world a woman should be strong and independent and increasingly girls are brought up in the spirit of feminism and independence, trying to target baby for career growth and leadership.
Of course, by the nature of his daughter’s qualities such as tenderness and femininity, you won’t necessarily make her weak-willed homebody, all catering to her husband. Developing my baby feminine qualities, you will be able to get a good housewife, loving mother, gentle and loving Continue reading